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 It gets better. I went back to her just months later.
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-**Sidebar:**
-Chameleon was going through a child custody battle during this per(shy)iod.
-At the end of the year, on Decem(shy)ber 17, 2008, I drove 9 hours
-to sup(shy)port her at a custody hear(shy)ing. The hear(shy)ing
-itself took place on Decem(shy)ber 18, 2008.
-A month later, on January 22, 2009, Chameleon phoned me and said
-that she was stand(shy)ing in a Child Pro(shy)tec(shy)tive Services office.
-She explain(shy)ed that she'd been placed in a Pen(shy)nsylvania child
-abuse regis(shy)try.
-There was a letter on her com(shy)pu(shy)ter, she said,
-that she need(shy)ed me to email to her so that she could
-pro(shy)vide it to
-Child Pro(shy)tec(shy)tive Services.
-I did as Chameleon requested. I ended up with a copy of the let(shy)ter
-in my Outbox due to her request. I have a copy that contains annotations
-that I completed with my editor November 18, 2021 and made available to
-the courts discussed here and to law enforcement. This copy has 6 pages
-and is available to government agencies and courts upon request. The
-page numbers below refer to that copy.
-It was a letter I had helped her write. I helped her word how to point
-out flaws in the argument of the case worker. I thought I was doing
-"God's work" and actually helping the children. However, the letter does contain quotes from the case
-worker's concerns that shouldn't be diminished
-as I tried to do while helping Chameleon write. I don't believe I need to disclose
-all of the identities at this time but I will summarize and respond to parts of the document
-here. I also want to apologize here to the case worker for the way I helped Chameleon represent the case
-worker in a poor light to her superiors. I now believe I was misguided in how I
-handled the facts. The case worker documented at least
-the following "risk assessment narrative" as quoted by Chameleon starting on page 3:
-"Primary caretaker is unable/unwilling to control impulses".
-The case worker also says that Chameleon never had any
-money, food for the children, or proper necessities (page 5).
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-Even with my help, it seems clear that the facts in the letter
-do not support Chameleon's responses as much as the
-case worker's concerns. For one thing, Chameleon states that the case
-worker using Chameleon's mother as a source is invalid, saying
-"I have been estranged from my mother since I was 16." However, this is
-not true. Chameleon's mother was housing her and asked her to leave due to being irresponsible
-such as by repeatedly leaving care of the kids with her without notice, even when
-Chameleon was present. At times, Chameleon would seem to have long bouts of crying
-but not shed any tears. I understand someone can cry until their tear ducts slow down,
-but that wasn't the case apparently since there were no tears period.
-That had happened only a few months or so prior, not years.
-Leah states that her daughter Chameleon is a potential
-sociopath who makes up false stories. This part is He Said-She Said and is offered simply for what it’s
-worth.
-On page 4, Chameleon states that one of her mother's "Untrue Statements" is
-"That I am involved in prostitution—this is not true; this was a rumor that was proven in court as a
-false statement on December 18, 2008 in front of Judge Alexander. My mother has a history of making
-slanderous statements about me and my life however has very little to no contact with my children and
-myself."
-On the contrary, I used to babysit Chameleon’s child(shy)ren on such occasions.
-I also attended the Court hearing which Chameleon is referring to
-here; I drove 9 hours (plus stops and slowdowns) at Chameleon’s request to do so;
-that to the best of my recollection, the
-"rumor" was not proven in Court to be false; and in fact, Chameleon seemed to acknowledge at
-one point that she was engaging in prostitution. In court I didn't recall her
-exact statement, "I thought I could make some extra money," from the traumatic conversation where that was likely the only clear
-and true statement among her manic rantings. After writing this book, I sent a message to the Michigan court asking if I can withdraw
-my permission that I gave her to use my testimony and asking how I could help them place an addendum on the
-court record noting my concerns with what I recalled afterward.
-In a sense, Chameleon had been treated unfairly in the prostitution context from a legal perspective.
-I went to Court to support Chameleon and to ensure that the process was fair.
-What had happened was that I made statements to Leah, Chameleon's mother, and to Ron, a
-churchgoer who housed Chameleon for a time as charity. Leah or Ron relayed the statements to Ron’s
-wife, a woman named Char.
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-I told Leah and Ron that Chameleon was "probably" engaging in prostitution. Leah and Char
-relayed my remarks to others as statements of fact. They may, additionally, have suggested that
-they had primary knowledge of the prostitution as opposed to the statements of fact actually being
-hearsay.
-I testified to the effect that Leah and Char had no primary knowledge related to the prostitution
-issue and that their statements had been hearsay.
-So, one part of the prostitution issue was "proven to be false". However, Chameleon had stated directly
-to me earlier in 2008, face to face, that she "like[d] sugar daddies" and that she knew it was wrong.
-She said, "I thought I could make some extra money".
-Chameleon talked about "sugar daddies" in email as well.
-We shared the user of her computer using one username. One day I went to gmail.com
-and it was already logged in as her and I saw the e-mails. Then I talked to my roommate and he
-revealed the other stuff.
-"The other stuff" was that Chameleon was doing pretty much any adult that she was able to get into
-bed, male or female, and telling everybody that "Jake is fine with this". In fact, I wasn't fine with this,
-but I drove 9 or more hours in December to support Chameleon in Court regardless.
-Chameleon may have sent the appeal letter dated January 22, 2009 to Child Protective Services
-or printed it from their office. She had me e-mail the document to her when she was out. She stated
-that she was on the Central Register (which she called the "Central Registry").
-I'm not certain how accessible it is but being on that list would inform legal entities and possibly
-even churches, employers, and neighbors that she should probably not have children under her care.
-I don't know whether her appeal to be removed from the Central Register
-was successful or not.
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-On page 4 the worker, as summarized by Chameleon, says that Chameleon has "no parenting skills."
-Chameleon's response is as follows:
-//In contrast, my mother testified in court in July of 2007 in front of
-Judge Idee Fox in Philadelphia Family Court that I was a "wonderful mother", a "caring and
-compassionate mother". She stated that I was "the most patient mother she had ever seen".
-In addition, I have been taking parenting classes of my own free will including James Dobson’s "Dare to
-Discipline" I have read many books including "Sheparding a Childs Heart", "Bringing Up Boys",
-"Strong Willed Child or a Dreamer" and others. I also have 5 years professional experience working in a Child
-Care Facility and have 10 years experience working in nurseries of the churches I have attended.//
-On the contrary, Chameleon never had a job for more than a year the whole time I
-knew her (10+ years). In Michigan, after losing a job, she told me, "I'm not very good at keeping jobs, but at least
-I'm good at getting jobs. I'm a good job getter, lol."
-Chameleon only attended Church off and on during the 10 years since
-I met her, and that was when she started attending church. She would go off into an unsafe
-lifestyle for months at a time. I'm not certain she even attended church regularly for more
-than a year at a time other than when 1BC Perkasie was paying her way through college.
-The cycle became shorter and more damaging to others over the years,
-not more stable. The characterization that she
-was some kind of model citizen or reliable minister is laughable. Though her stories of redemption
-and unreasonably quick dives back into church service seemed exciting and spiritual at the time, they
-were ill-advised. However, there wasn't anything really, short of asking her to leave which happened at least once (at 1BC Perkasie),
-to slow down her involvement and rise to publicity within any church community she attended.
-The Bible advises against having novices in leadership. In addition, others and myself were too quick
-to want her return and her charisma to be used for good. When I saw her do the same thing at a high-end bar in Michigan,
-I said to myself "Hmm..."--It seemed like the same process of becoming the center of attention, and not really spiritual at all.
-Chameleon went on (or claimed to go on) a missions trip to Peru around all the time the inappropriate behavior in Scranton occurred.
-It is not really that much of a mystery that someone would do public service who isn't altruistic
-(acting in the interest of others rather than in self-interest).
-Someone could have various reasons for doing so, such as improving self image, public image, or even a free vacation or granted, likely a mixture of the three.
-It doesn't have to be spiritual or general altruism. In fact, I'm certain that she doesn't understand the concept.
-In Michigan when I wouldn't go along with certain things I tried to explain at length to her that I
-was acting on principle. For example, acting on principle means acting against one's impulses in order
-to benefit a spiritual or social good. I can tell you that she specifically stated that she doesn't understand the
-concept. She kept saying, "Why would you do anything you don't want to do?" This was one case where she
-quoted counsel she received and either twisted it or had received bad counsel.
-Regarding Chameleon's statement that she read this and that parenting book, that's great she got that advice and I hope that the effect of them
-on her children through her has been positive. However, I've seen her use the counsel she was given,
-including mine, as tools to manipulate others not to improve herself. Not understanding the concept
-of altruism isn't something that is cured by stopping a dangerous lifestyle to act in a socially
-acceptable way. That could easily be in self-interest. She received
-money and sometimes free housing for much of the time for at least ten years, from church people not just sexual encounters. Considering she got worse not better
-over the years (at least in public effects), I do not recommend that Chameleon have children under her care.
-If you have morals you might assume others do but that isn't always true. Some people are eager
-to use you and have no qualms about it. Chameleon only seemed to have remorse about the Scranton behavior
-after I convinced her I wouldn't be "gaslit" (told what I saw wasn't what it was)
-and pointed out to her that she should seem to have remorse but doesn't.
-The seeming not the doing seems to be what is important to her. That, or in other words trying to appear virtuous
-without achieving virtue, is called virtue signalling.
-Because of her tendency to manipulate using morals and psychology, I do not recommend buying her next redemption story or making your
-physical or spiritual well-being or that of others depend on it, such as by placing her in a formal or informal church leadership role
-or even a confidant or spiritual mentor as many have.
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-For the next page, Return of the Chameleon, [[chameleon_tfc|click here.]]
-For the previous page, Early Chameleon, [[chameleon_early|click here.]]
-To jump to the start and the index, [[start|click here.]]
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-# chameleon_me meta
-More:  See  2021-08-26 e-mail with subject starting with "Information to potentially
-complete"
-And the following:
--  Chameleon and  Rubens  went to high school together.  She came back
-from  NYC  with her head shaved and using her biological father's last
-name.  Her claim for why she had her head shaved was "I was on so much
-drugs  I thought I was an alien." Her claim for why she had been using
-an illegal alias was that she preferred it, and that her brothers used
-the  last  name.  She  says she convinced the DMV in NYC to give her a
-license under a different name without proper identification.  Both of
-these points are parallel to
-https://overcomers.group/doku/chameleon_early.
--         In         Chronological        order,        next        is
-https://wiki.minetest.org/overcome/chameleon.html

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