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 It was a letter I had helped her write. I helped her word how to point
 out flaws in the argument of the case worker. I thought I was doing
-"God's work". However, the letter does contain quotes from the case
+"God's work" and actually helping the children. However, the letter does contain quotes from the case
 worker's concerns that shouldn't be diminished
 as I tried to do while helping Chameleon write. I don't believe I need to disclose
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 to want her return and her charisma to be used for good. When I saw her do the same thing at a high-end bar in Michigan,
 I said to myself "Hmm..."--It seemed like the same process of becoming the center of attention, and not really spiritual at all.
+Chameleon went on (or claimed to go on) a missions trip to Peru around all the time the inappropriate behavior in Scranton occurred.
+It is not really that much of a mystery that someone would do public service who isn't altruistic
+(acting in the interest of others rather than in self-interest).
+Someone could have various reasons for doing so, such as improving self image, public image, or even a free vacation or granted, likely a mixture of the three.
+It doesn't have to be spiritual or general altruism. In fact, I'm certain that she doesn't understand the concept.
+In Michigan when I wouldn't go along with certain things I tried to explain at length to her that I
+was acting on principle. For example, acting on principle means acting against one's impulses in order
+to benefit a spiritual or social good. I can tell you that she specifically stated that she doesn't understand the
+concept. She kept saying, "Why would you do anything you don't want to do?" This was one case where she
+quoted counsel she received and either twisted it or had received bad counsel.
 Regarding Chameleon's statement that she read this and that parenting book, that's great she got that advice and I hope that the effect of them
 on her children through her has been positive. However, I've seen her use the counsel she was given,
-including mine, as tools to manipulate others not to improve herself. Considering she got worse not better
+including mine, as tools to manipulate others not to improve herself. Not understanding the concept
-over the years, I do not recommend that Chameleon have children under her care. Because of her
+of altruism isn't something that is cured by stopping a dangerous lifestyle to act in a socially
-tendency to manipulate in this way, I do not recommend buying her next redemption story or making your
+acceptable way. That could easily be in self-interest. She received
-physical or spiritual well-being or that of others depend on it.
+money and sometimes free housing for much of the time for at least ten years, from church people not just sexual encounters. Considering she got worse not better
+over the years (at least in public effects), I do not recommend that Chameleon have children under her care.
+If you have morals you might assume others do but that isn't always true. Some people are eager
+to use you and have no qualms about it. Chameleon only seemed to have remorse about the Scranton behavior
+after I convinced her I wouldn't be "gaslit" (told what I saw wasn't what it was)
+and pointed out to her that she should seem to have remorse but doesn't.
+The seeming not the doing seems to be what is important to her. That, or in other words trying to appear virtuous
+without achieving virtue, is called virtue signalling.
+Because of her tendency to manipulate using morals and psychology, I do not recommend buying her next redemption story or making your
+physical or spiritual well-being or that of others depend on it, such as by placing her in a formal or informal church leadership role
+or even a confidant or spiritual mentor as many have.
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